Can You Follow Jesus and Still Have Questions About Sexuality?
For many people, questions about sexuality are not theoretical.
They are personal.
They involve friendships, family members, coworkers, children, neighbors, and sometimes our own stories. They touch identity, relationships, faith, belonging, and the desire to be fully known and fully loved.
Because of that, conversations about sexuality often feel different from other theological discussions. They can carry a unique weight. People are not simply asking, “What does the Bible say?” They are often asking deeper questions beneath the surface.
Can I belong here?
Will I be accepted?
If I disagree, will I still be welcomed?
Can I be honest about my questions?
These are deeply human questions. And they deserve more than quick answers.
They are personal.
They involve friendships, family members, coworkers, children, neighbors, and sometimes our own stories. They touch identity, relationships, faith, belonging, and the desire to be fully known and fully loved.
Because of that, conversations about sexuality often feel different from other theological discussions. They can carry a unique weight. People are not simply asking, “What does the Bible say?” They are often asking deeper questions beneath the surface.
Can I belong here?
Will I be accepted?
If I disagree, will I still be welcomed?
Can I be honest about my questions?
These are deeply human questions. And they deserve more than quick answers.
Why This Conversation Feels So Difficult
One reason conversations about sexuality feel so difficult is because they often become conversations about people before they become conversations about ideas.
It is one thing to debate a topic in theory. It is another thing when the conversation involves someone you love. It is another thing when it involves your own story.
That is why these discussions can quickly become emotional. They touch places of vulnerability, fear, hope, disappointment, and longing.
For many people, the challenge is not simply understanding a biblical position. The challenge is wondering whether there is still room for them while they are asking questions.
Too often, people assume they must arrive at certainty before they can enter a church community. They feel pressure to have everything figured out before they walk through the doors.
But that is not how most people encounter Jesus in the Gospels.
People came to Jesus with confusion. They came with doubts. They came with misunderstandings. They came carrying complicated histories and unanswered questions.
And yet Jesus continually made space for them.
It is one thing to debate a topic in theory. It is another thing when the conversation involves someone you love. It is another thing when it involves your own story.
That is why these discussions can quickly become emotional. They touch places of vulnerability, fear, hope, disappointment, and longing.
For many people, the challenge is not simply understanding a biblical position. The challenge is wondering whether there is still room for them while they are asking questions.
Too often, people assume they must arrive at certainty before they can enter a church community. They feel pressure to have everything figured out before they walk through the doors.
But that is not how most people encounter Jesus in the Gospels.
People came to Jesus with confusion. They came with doubts. They came with misunderstandings. They came carrying complicated histories and unanswered questions.
And yet Jesus continually made space for them.
The Difference Between Position and Posture
One of the most important lessons Christians can learn is that position and posture are not the same thing.
A position answers the question, “What do we believe?”
A posture answers the question, “How do we treat people?”
Both matter.
Throughout church history, Christians have held convictions about faith, Scripture, marriage, ethics, and discipleship. Convictions matter because truth matters.
But Jesus also demonstrated something equally important. He showed that truth was never meant to be separated from love.
Again and again, people who felt overlooked, rejected, or pushed aside found themselves welcomed into conversations with Jesus. He listened. He asked questions. He showed compassion. He saw people others often ignored.
His posture did not eliminate truth. It revealed the heart behind it.
In a world that often forces people to choose between conviction and compassion, Jesus consistently demonstrated both.
A position answers the question, “What do we believe?”
A posture answers the question, “How do we treat people?”
Both matter.
Throughout church history, Christians have held convictions about faith, Scripture, marriage, ethics, and discipleship. Convictions matter because truth matters.
But Jesus also demonstrated something equally important. He showed that truth was never meant to be separated from love.
Again and again, people who felt overlooked, rejected, or pushed aside found themselves welcomed into conversations with Jesus. He listened. He asked questions. He showed compassion. He saw people others often ignored.
His posture did not eliminate truth. It revealed the heart behind it.
In a world that often forces people to choose between conviction and compassion, Jesus consistently demonstrated both.
What We Learn From Jesus
When you read the Gospels carefully, one pattern becomes impossible to ignore.
Jesus was remarkably approachable.
People who disagreed with Him approached Him.
People who doubted approached Him.
People with complicated stories approached Him.
People who felt far from God approached Him.
The religious leaders of His day often expected Him to create sharper boundaries. Instead, He continually moved toward people.
This does not mean Jesus avoided difficult conversations. In fact, He often spoke challenging truths. But He did so in a way that invited people closer rather than pushing them farther away.
That matters because many people today assume church is only for people who already have everything figured out.
Jesus presents a different picture.
His invitation was never “Figure everything out first, then come.”
His invitation was simply, “Follow me.”
For many people, understanding comes later. Growth comes later. Clarity comes later.
The first step is often just being willing to begin the journey.
Jesus was remarkably approachable.
People who disagreed with Him approached Him.
People who doubted approached Him.
People with complicated stories approached Him.
People who felt far from God approached Him.
The religious leaders of His day often expected Him to create sharper boundaries. Instead, He continually moved toward people.
This does not mean Jesus avoided difficult conversations. In fact, He often spoke challenging truths. But He did so in a way that invited people closer rather than pushing them farther away.
That matters because many people today assume church is only for people who already have everything figured out.
Jesus presents a different picture.
His invitation was never “Figure everything out first, then come.”
His invitation was simply, “Follow me.”
For many people, understanding comes later. Growth comes later. Clarity comes later.
The first step is often just being willing to begin the journey.
What This Means If You Are Unsure About Church
For many people, the hardest part about church is not deciding whether to attend. It's wondering what will happen once people know their story.
What if you still have questions?
What if you're not sure what you believe?
What if parts of your life feel complicated or unresolved?
The good news is that faith does not begin with having everything figured out. It begins with the willingness to be honest. Church is not a community of people who have arrived. It is a community of people learning, often imperfectly, how to follow Jesus together.
Some of the most meaningful journeys of faith begin not with certainty, but with a question.
What if you still have questions?
What if you're not sure what you believe?
What if parts of your life feel complicated or unresolved?
The good news is that faith does not begin with having everything figured out. It begins with the willingness to be honest. Church is not a community of people who have arrived. It is a community of people learning, often imperfectly, how to follow Jesus together.
Some of the most meaningful journeys of faith begin not with certainty, but with a question.
A Place to Keep Exploring
At NewStory Church, we believe meaningful conversations require both truth and grace.
We believe people deserve more than sound bites, social media arguments, or simplistic answers to complex questions.
We also believe that every person carries dignity, value, and worth because every person is created in the image of God.
Whether you are confident in what you believe, uncertain about where you stand, or simply trying to understand Christianity better, our hope is that you would find a place where questions are welcomed and conversations can happen with honesty, humility, and respect.
Faith is rarely formed overnight.
Most often, it grows through relationships, conversations, Scripture, prayer, and a willingness to keep taking the next step.
And sometimes the next step is simply being willing to keep exploring.
We believe people deserve more than sound bites, social media arguments, or simplistic answers to complex questions.
We also believe that every person carries dignity, value, and worth because every person is created in the image of God.
Whether you are confident in what you believe, uncertain about where you stand, or simply trying to understand Christianity better, our hope is that you would find a place where questions are welcomed and conversations can happen with honesty, humility, and respect.
Faith is rarely formed overnight.
Most often, it grows through relationships, conversations, Scripture, prayer, and a willingness to keep taking the next step.
And sometimes the next step is simply being willing to keep exploring.
Continue the Conversation
This article is part of our Gospel and Sexuality resource collection, where we explore questions surrounding faith, identity, relationships, discipleship, and what it means to follow Jesus in today’s world.
If you’d like to continue learning, listening, and exploring these conversations, we invite you to visit our complete Gospel and Sexuality resource page and engage with the messages, discussions, and stories that shaped this series.
If you’d like to continue learning, listening, and exploring these conversations, we invite you to visit our complete Gospel and Sexuality resource page and engage with the messages, discussions, and stories that shaped this series.